November was a long month in many ways.
my mom and dad both have birthdays in November. dad the 5th and mom the 18th.
(my mom was awarded nurse of the year! ok maybe not but she should be! she was awarded for being at the hospital for so long)
i cried my first time (maybe second time) at work (i mean really cried) because i was so angry at a mean person who wouldn’t stop yelling at me it just frustrated me to tears. it was also a time i was reminded at how awesome it is to work with wonderful people.
one morning we got a call that my aunt ann passed away. November 19th. (i am going to get on a soap box for a few minutes…sorry in advance – listen to your doctors and communicate with your family). ann was my only “real” aunt. my mom was an only child and my dad only had the one sister. sure i had several great aunts but she was my only real aunt. i have so many memories of her – good and not great. i can remember when we stayed in tn for part of the summer that sometimes we got lucky and would go to her house to eat dinner and spend the night (if my grandparents had meetings). we would make personal pizzas from scratch and would set up our tables (ironing board with a sheet over it) and would watch movies with her. it was something that we didn’t get to do often, but will and i enjoyed it when we got to. i remember baking with her growing up. i remember helping at the green house when i was little (planting and helping deliver). i remember many conversations with her and her support.
there are some iffy memories in there too that aren’t as positive…i remember the time that i offered to help her at the green house after we moved and she snickered and laughed at me because it “wasn’t my thing” and the unending comments about city people and country people. but in a time of mourning and death i think it is customary to try to push those out of ones mind. looking back those things don’t change the fact that she was my aunt and i loved her and i will miss her.
the other day we were standing in the green house and it was very surreal (as death is to me) knowing that she isn’t coming back. i looked around and part of me was mad that she didn’t take care of herself better and that she wouldn’t listen to what the doctors told her and she was so guarded with her personal life that nothing we could say would change her mind about that. that was who she was and at her funeral that was the message that we got. even in her stubbornness she was who she was. in those moments of anger it made me think of her funeral and at her funeral we laughed. we told Jamie to keep it light and real and he did. it was the most beautiful memorial service and the perfect send off. in the good and not great, and the anger and laughter, and expectations met and not met there was love and at the end of the day that is what i choose to cling to.
my aunt was an organ donor at the time she passed away and i was the one that talked to the screening people at the donation organization. i am an organ donor because i like the idea and thoughts behind it. i will be honest i never really knew what that meant. i never really thought about what that means for the people that are left behind. while i understand completely the need for the questions i was asked, somewhere in the middle of the million and a half questions i thought i have no idea on some of these answers. on my soap box i would like to tell everyone and anyone who will listen – talk to your family…make sure they know your history and wishes as detailed as possible. after i got off the phone (an hour conversation) i was exhausted.
will came for the memorial service (actually the service was delayed 10 minutes waiting on him since his plane was delayed. we took him to the farm and it was so funny. the ganged up on him and tried to take the treats. i will post pics of the farm in another post. but here are a few with the family.
church harvest auction with guests jed and lisa.
thanksgiving happened. it was later this year and to be honest it was bad. it made me lose a week before Christmas and that was so bad. we went to charlotte for thanksgiving and it was great to see family and friends. andy was glad to see tall buildings. we got to see cj and ellen which is always fun and an adventure. i had another allergic reaction to thanksgiving dinner but i was prepared and had medicine on hand to stop the itching. i think i have it narrowed down to what dish i am allergic too, but still researching that. who knows?! cj wanted to take pictures with my camera. i only had a mild heart attack when she almost dropped it so from now on if she has my camera the strap has to stay around her neck (she is ok with this). she took mostly blurry photos and picks of people’s knees but with a little help she can center people and take a good photo.
we also went black Friday shopping. it was great to be so close to stores…
we also got our tree from the church and brought it back to tn with us. it was really funny watching all of the cars go back towards charlotte with trees from the mountains and we left charlotte and took our tree to the mountains. it was very scary for me. i had a slight freak out when we left charlotte and could envision our tree rolling off the top and taking out all the cars around us. so i kept an eye on it.
we made it home with no trouble.
the only other thing i can think of is that andy trashed ace of base (i love ace of base and am still slightly upset over that) but, that pretty much wraps up an exhausting November.